According to our ACE scores, we should probably be dead by now. The Adverse Childhood Experiences test counts the number of certain adversities faced in childhood (physical abuse, a parent’s incarceration, etc) to predict the likelihood of developing heart disease, cancer, STDs, addiction, suicidal ideation, and other frightening ways to meet your demise. Our childhood had all the basic ingredients, plus some extra spice, to cook up disastrous outcomes: alcoholism, domestic violence, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, isolation, and CPS intervention.
But here we are, not only not dead, but positively alive and doing pretty dang well! Healthy, happy, and hopeful as heck. Over time we realized that our ACE score may have been the beginning of our story, but it was up to us to write the ending. We thought by sharing our experience, maybe other people could change their outcomes, too.
From that desire to serve (and copious amounts of coffee), the Brother Sister Blog was born. We talk about the things we love – like climbing mountains, traveling, reading, drinking all the coffee – but also about what it’s like to learn that your brain is wired funky and how we experienced life outside the trailer for the first time. We share about the many aspects of our lives that weave together to make this colorful, if slightly tattered, tapestry. We hope you enjoy it!
Who we are: Tony is a charismatic introvert. He’s everybody’s favorite and the one you call for help. He’s the older brother, but as a result of the last few years of healthy and inspired living, is often asked if he’s the younger one. Monica is an idealist through and through, which can be equally annoying and inspiring. She’s mostly working on looking like the younger sister again.
Welcome to our site!